Back to Life

Hello there! I am back. Back to The Pitter-Patter. Back to blogging about TTCing, POASing, BFNs and the no-baby-yet blues. All done with endless hope and buckets of tears. Ahh I have missed it. Not the tears. But the writing. And I have really missed you.

Did I...?

If there is any big news that you think I just HAVE to know please drop me a comment with the link to your blog post that I missed. I have just been away too long...Thank you!

So for my update: Well there is no baby news. No surprise there. In fact if there was any baby news it would be a very holy miracle, if you catch my drift. Not only have I been working so hard that I had no time to blog, I also had no time for Mr. T. Poor poor neglected Mr. T. Well don't feel too sorry for him - he is currently in the dog house (see above picture). I'll get back to that in a moment.

So the craziness of work is over. No more coming home after midnight day after day. I can finally have my life back! I can see friends, go out for lunch, have a lie-in, go to yoga, blog (!) and just do normal life things again. Like getting back into that TTC rhythm - though the fact that all that TTC chaos seems normal to me is quite depressing. It was really nice to forget all about trying to have a baby, to forget about timed sex, IUIs and pregnancy tests. To just be me without all that. But. As soon as my event was finished and my life started to adjust back to normal, I felt empty again and realized that another month had gone by and this time there was not even a slim chance of a BFP.

This leads me to this month and Mr.T's current residence in the dog house. You see we had planned a week of relaxation. A week to just be with each other. A week that we both really needed. And it just happened to be over ovulation time too! Yay! But. Mr. T messed up. Big time. I won't share his mistake with you all but needless to say he is apologizing and having to pull out the big apology guns and the I-really-messed-up-with-my-wife gifts: chocolates, flowers, candle-lit bubble baths, dinners, breakfast in bed... he's getting there. However there was no way any bedroom fun was going to take place so this month's TTCing never happened. Which basically means no baby hopes for us anytime soon. Sigh. Big annoying frustrating sigh.

On to some slightly bizarre news... While dealing with the no-baby-hopes, I have been having a strong urge to knit. I can't knit. I have no idea how to knit. But I have a feeling that knitting is going to help me deal with my IF. I don't know why or how, but it's a gut feeling I have so I think I am going to give it a try. I'll let you know how it goes. And don't worry I won't be handing out any of my knitted experiments as Christmas gifts.

Hmmm... it's good to be back. There is so much more I need to share with you! Be back soon.

HypnoBirthing in the news

My HypnoBirthing classes made it into the local news at San Diego News Network (http://www.sdnn.com/), an online news source!

http://www.sdnn.com/sandiego/2009-11-19/health-fitness/hypnobirthing-allows-a-new-state-of-mind-to-be-a-new-state-of-labor

Let me know what you think of the article! I'd love to hear your feedback. Thanks!

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An example of how HypnoBirthing heals birth trauma

This is the journey of one of my former HypnoBirthing clients, Kim, who was terrified of giving birth & needing another c-section:

My first birth was 20 years ago... I was very young (20 to be exact) and very uneducated in regards to the "birthing" process, I had no idea that there were even options available to me as far as different types of births or classes etc... I was very naive and very frightened to say the least! I believe that because i was so unaware and afraid that I ended up being in labor for 3 days (not knowing how to help myself progress) I went to the hospital 3 times and was sent home all 3 times because I wasn't progressing so i was told to go home until I was further along but because I didn't know what to do or how to do it I ended up with an emergency C-section and was told it was because of "Failure to progress".

When I was finally admitted to the hospital the only thing I remember is being hooked up to so many machines and monitors - and put in a room with multiple mothers in labor as well (all of them playing cards and watching TV because they had an epidural) but I was screaming in agony because I wanted to try to birth naturally but didn't have support or knowledge as to how to do this. I didn't have anyone coaching me or anyone explaining to me what was happening and why and then before I knew it I was being rushed me to the surgery room for an emergency surgery. I was terrified for my baby and for myself!

Over the past 20 years I wanted to have another child but I knew deep inside that I was pretty traumatized from the first delivery and I believe that because it was never the "right" time or because I never felt ready that it kept me from trying again. I recently became re-married and my husband and I decided to try to conceive and because I finally felt "whole" and "supported" I decided this was the "right" time in my life.

As my pregnancy progressed I started feeling very scared about going into labor again and extremely terrified of the possibility of having another emergency c-section! I was so frightened that there would be several days during the week that i would just break down crying to my husband or to my doctor (Dr. Biter) about my fears. I had a very hard time reading books about birth or even watching video's that showed women birthing! My whole body would become very tense and I would have to shut my eyes. I was finally advised to look into doing "HypnoBirthing".

At first I was very hesitant about how the process of HypnoBirthing could actually work or even help me and at the beginning I still couldn't watch the video's that Carol would be showing - or even talking about my first experience in front of the class made me sick to my stomach but as we went through the classes and after reading the material and actually doing the homework I started becoming more and more at ease about the whole process. I started learning so much about how I can have the "birth" that I desire and that whatever the outcome it would truly be the peaceful birth that I am meant to have. And because of the work that I did through HypnoBirthing, I was able to heal from my past wounds of childbirth and embrace this birth even though it had to take a different path then we had hoped for!

After trying everything I possibly could for 2 weeks to turn my sweet little girl around, we finally had to go in and get her on Sunday, Oct 18th. Dr. Biter was fabulous and supported me 100% with trying any and all alternative measures and then I did end up going into labor on day 13 - contractions were 10 min apart for about 15 hours until we finally decided it was time to go in for surgery.

The one thing I do want to say is that because of HypnoBirthing I was able to come to peace with my journey through all of this and used all of the techniques we learned to help me along the way even though I didn't have the birth of my choice. I did learn that I can't control everything and this little girl taught me that I need to learn to let-go and surrender once in awhile! I also had an opportunity to do some healing from my first birth as well which was wonderful! So thank you for everything! I couldn't have done it without you!

Love, Kim
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Thanks, Kim, for sharing your story! I'm so glad that the HypnoBirthing classes helped you heal your birth trauma from your 1st birth & helped you get to a place of acceptance & peace for your 2nd birth. Congratulations on the birth of Laila & enjoy your babymoon!

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