As my 12 week mark approaches I am considering how to make the BIG announcement. There are a number of people who it is only polite to let know, like family and close friends. (Though all immediate family already know.) Since I'm in Morocco, a phone call to each person is out of the question. I could email. But FB is very tempting. You only have to make one announcement and the whole world knows. Quick and free.
But. I remember how it felt to read pregnancy announcements on FB. It was seriously depressing. I know many IFers stopped doing the FB thing because of this and I have to say as the months wore on I became a less frequent FB visitor. So now as I contemplate making my pregnancy announcement on FB, I am wondering. Wondering if maybe there are other friends out there on FB going through their own TTC hell, and what if I was one of those pregnancy announcements? I would hate to think that my announcement on FB would make another friend feel sad.
So what if I announced my pregnancy on FB and revealed some of the truth behind this long-waited for pregnancy? After all it was this time last year that a fertility specialist told me and Mr. T that there was very little chance we would conceive without ICSI. Perhaps this news might help someone else out also suffering IF? Perhaps sharing this might give someone hope?
Though this means being a lot more public about our IF. There would be a face and a last name. And since many of the people you add on FB aren't really "friends" but your sister's boss and some nice lady you met at the airport when your flight got cancelled - do I really need to be sharing this with the FB world at large?
Maybe. Cos when I think about it, this is real. This is what happens to 1 in every 6 couples. And I am all about recognizing and talking about IF and not hiding it away. So I have been thinking about this. And this is what I think I will post:
Last year Mr. T and I were told we would most likely never be able to have children (well at least not without the help of doctors and petri dishes). I am now 3 months pregnant - no petri dishes involved. Overjoyed. Ecstatic. And can't quite believe it.
What do you think? Do I FB it?
